There are words that should be considered a vulgarity in any relationship intimate. Now I know. At least until those words can be used in joy, without fear of any misunderstanding, because the desires of both are exactly the same. What the hell does "I love you"? Someone says "I love you." What is he saying? You do not. You can only interpret that based on the meaning you give to that verb. And you may be scared to understand that in this verb are included certain aspects that seem abrupt to you, or that the verb is intended to possess, take your freedom, a commitment to push yourself, or you can fill you with joy in believing that that person feels something for you deeper than they really feel, he feels the same as you. Or maybe more or less success and make a decision according to what the other person wanted to express. But you'll never know. Communication does not exist, or does not exist as we always believe it exists. It is an illusion. You never know what the other says, and yet we tend to cling to words as stupid, as if we looked for the reason that happiness, as if privilegiéramos thinking about the feeling. "I do not I love you", they say. What the hell does that mean? Does not love you as the burden on that person carries that word. Does not love you as what the word means to her. But what did he say? You do not. "I love you but I love you." Then things get complicated. There are degrees. Do not know what we said. Yet we make decisions based on ignorance, and then we have the feeling that something was precipitated, that something was going too fast, that something broke, that something did not flow.
So also start conflicts in all parts of the world. People focus on ideas and not in heart, and not on facts, not concrete. Peace is love. War is indifference.
us come to an agreement. You can be telling me you love me but love me and feel something similar to what I am telling you I love you. And yet the words we are separating. But we could forget these empty statements, and ask: What do we do together? Do we like ourselves? "We like to know one another? Do we like kissing, making love, sharing the things we like? "We like to help? Do we like ourselves? Do we want to make a couple now? What kind of partner? Does a family? And if so ... What kind of family? Do we want to project ourselves together on a future course? Well ... What we agree? Let's stick to what they agree. You may want one of two things now the other now not. But why give up what we both want to right now? No matter what we have understood the words. We always confuse them away from what we are, what we feel. The feelings have no name. The truth has no name. Only happens. By naming create separation, because the ideas appear. As little children, upset, we tend to disappoint if the other person does not believe exactly what we want. We lack in our expectations rather than what we share.
"If you do not want the same thing ... stay away, because you are going to suffer." "If you do not want the same thing ... stay away, because you do suffer." Are the tips that are usually given. And people tend to be focused on that little ego that seeks only personal satisfaction, and considers the other an object that should give us everything we want, just when you want. What has that to do with love? My damage would be to deny what I feel for someone wanting to forget, just because that person does not want certain things with me, or because now I do not want certain things in my life or her. Plus ... if the person you're interested you will not do any of the things that you would like you to do together now, and that's why you go away ... then the person does not interest you, you want the thing itself. And I ask again What has that to do with love? As Bette Davis said in All About Eve: detest cheap sentiment.
same thing happens in any conflict. Reach an agreement. What do we want each of the two this relationship, we are two people or two countries? What we agree? Promote what we both want. Put aside the abstract ideas. What do we want? What they do not agree, let's leave aside, for later or never. Everything can be staked. Perhaps one day what we want to match completely. Maybe one day what you want and not want it, and I did not want it wants. Nothing is permanent. Let's stick to what unites us.
Then "I love you" and "No I love you" are meaningless. Because the relationship, whatever it is, is love, in the broadest meaning you can imagine. No two egos asking. Two people are allowing to happen what IS, at a pace that mark life in between. There is no goal. The journey is the destination. For only when no goal, when you think you should reach a particular site, that's when ideas appear and, for that matter, the conflict, separation illusory.
© Gregory Colbert 
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